Would you meet your birth mom?
I have a fantasy birth mom. A lot of us adoptees do. She likes us. She can do no wrong. But some of us know that if we were to show up at her door one day she would ask why we came. Our fantasy would die. When I was twenty one I had four thousand dollars saved up. I know I had enough for a plane ticket. I bought a car instead. I know if I went to Romania I would go expecting something, but it wouldn’t be what I fantasized. I know my fantasy would die. So no I don’t plan on meeting my birth mom.
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My father was adopted. He chose to reconnect with his father and it was a blessing to him. I don’t know if he ever had all his questions answered, but I do know forgiveness was involved.
It’s such a personal decision to each person.
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My husband was adopted, and he met his birth mom after he graduated college. They still talk and have an impressive bond, to this day. He hasn’t met his birth father and has no intentions to, either.
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My friend was adopted. She set out years ago to find her birth mom. No success.Everyone has their own opinions on should I look or should I not.
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Wow! That would be interesting. I don’t know if I would either. That is a tough one. Keep your head up. Regardless, know that God loves you so much in ways that you can’t even imagine, more than anyone ever will be able to.
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I’m adopted and the thought has crossed my mind a couple of times, but I’ve never felt any great urge to trace them. Would be quite weird to finally come face to face with your birth parents.
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my 2 girls are adopted.
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This was an interesting train of thought. I don’t know a lot of people whoa re adopted but this surely helped open my eyes a bit. Thank ou
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If I were adopted I’m not sure if I’d want to find a birth parent.
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I don’t think I would want to know. I would keep my vision close to my heart and let that live on.
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I don’t think I want to know but then I’ll be curious. I really don’t know how I would re-act.
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Very insightful you make good points
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I had two besties growing up and they both just happened to be adopted! Neither of them had any interest in meeting their birth parents.
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Thought provoking, honest, and insightful post. Thanks for sharing.
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That would be a hard decision to make!! I know sometimes unkown is better left unkown but so hard to do.
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Thats how I feel. Unknown can be a good thing.
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I would like to know as I would have questions only she could answer. Great post
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My friend was adopted and then she knew that her birth mom was her auntie but it was a blessing and relief for her all things he didnt knew at first. 🙂
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I always wanted to meet my dad. He died when my mom was 9mos. pregnant. But he was in California gambling and trying to ‘get rich’ for the family, so maybe…. my expectations wouldn’t meet up either. It doesn’t matter, I’m okay. 🙂
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I am sure this is such a sensitive subject to deal with as the reactions and feelings could differ on every one. To me I am not sure if I will ever think about meeting a birth mom after living a different life over the years!
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Interesting from a personal perspective. Very heartfelt post.
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i have so many friends who are adopted.They are very happy and I haven’t’ heard them talking of finding their biological parents .
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I think it depends on you if you want to meet her or not. I would have bought a car as well, if she wanted to see me should would have.
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I can only imagine what goes through a child’s mind about their birth parents. I think you made the right choice during that time. I’m am not certain about how your mom will react when she sees you but for me, you have to keep living for you.
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