True Love waits…and waits…and waits…..

Photo credit: Zach Ricks
Photo credit: Zach Ricks

A lot of you who know me may be wondering why my Facebook profile has a picture of Peter and me kissing when I always say, “kissing looks gross.” There’s a small part of mine and Peter’s story we kept for our family, close friends and ourselves.

We didn’t kiss on the lips until the morning of our wedding.  

 When we set the standard of not kissing, boundaries became harder. We were allowed to kiss on the cheek and hand but there were times we decided to not even do that. We struggled along the way.  

Some may say we were too extreme but…

fighting to love each other the right way is not extreme.

Because of our broken pasts The Scariest Road we had to be, so-called ‘extreme.’ Had we kissed before our wedding it wouldn’t of been sinning. We would’ve just been falling short of goals we set and therefore making the other less important than our selfish desires. 

    We continue to thank God for our victories. Now that we are married we are more aware of the physical and emotional connection kissing has. The idea of kissing someone besides my husband is foreign and wrong.

I write this to encourage those who are fighting for a healthy relationship centered in Christ. You can do it. So don’t stop fighting for it.

26 thoughts on “True Love waits…and waits…and waits…..

  1. My husband and I allowed ourselves a peck on the lips greeting and, what we called the “swing kiss” once during the date (another peck on the lips). But we were careful never to be alone together behind closed doors and it never went further than that for the nearly two years while we dated and were engaged. It’s so great to wait! 😀

    (Neither of us were innocent when we became Christians so it was even more of a victory).

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  2. I think I started to tear up at this… your blog is beautiful and I want to read more of your story.
    My boyfriend and I committed to not kissing until our wedding, either. And I know all too well the ups and downs of fluctuating rules, stepping back from even the hand-holding and such for times, simply because of the Holy Spirit’s leading and the complete desire to follow God’s will and His timing.
    It HURTS sometimes, but it is SO worth it to be in step with God’s plan, because the results are only beauty and fullness, no regret like there would be, did we do things our own way.

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  3. That is such a great part of your story – that you two made decisions together to respect personal boundary lines for a bigger purpose, and you worked together to stay true to that, even before marriage.

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    • Yes they do and sometimes it doesn’t hit them until they are married and they start with a rockier road then needed.


  4. I admire that you knew what you had to do to so that you would stay within certain boundary lines.We should all examine the measures we need to take to keep from being tempted beyond what we can handle!

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  5. Thanks for sharing your story. My girls are nearing their teenage years and we talk about this regularly. It’s good to share stories of that first wedding day kiss! Thanks for linking up! #FridayFive

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  6. It’s always good to set boundaries. I’m glad you point out kissing before marriage is not a sin. Every couple should set boundaries that will help guard their goals & purity. My husband & I kissed before marriage but one of our goals was to not spend time alone, just the two of us, while courting.

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