Homeschool 2026

Although we have been doing school throughout the Summer we are now officially entering a new phase in our journey. We keep the workload lighter and continue with Awana homework, reading, math and science. They have also loved the breaks for two VBS’s this year and all the free Summer activities I have found for both field trips, and keeping them out of the heat: library events, free bowling, YMCA pool, splash pad with friends, and community events.

As Summer is coming to a close they will officially be starting a new team sport, soccer! They always get a choice if they want to try something new and this is the new for all of us! Their Awana club will be continuing as Sparks memorizing verses during the week and having fun.

As I mentioned earlier there will be new changes on this journey with a new sport and some of their homeschool friends going to school. This is a great learning lesson on change. Change being bittersweet but still eager for what’s in store. We often get asked if our children will be going to traditional school and the answer is still no. Homeschool is a good fit for our family and works for our pace of life.

I didn’t see myself as a homeschool mom. I saw my mornings with taking them to the bus stop or driving them to school and going to work. Wherever that was, then picking them up.
I saw my life busier.
I saw us with more kids.
A bigger home.
I saw a lot of car rides.
I saw myself living by family.
I saw my husband cooking instead of me.

I didn’t see these slow mornings, hands on learning, and being on the front line for every activity our children are in. I didn’t see I was only meant for two children. That my support system needs to be built carefully.

God knew the specific skills I needed to build. God knew where my heart needed to heal.
He knows exactly what my journey needs and I will continue to follow faithfully.

Walking Without You

The reality of having to cut off someone for protecting your children is not a one day decision. There is nothing light about it. In fact it’s heavy and a grieving process takes place. I grieve what could have been. I grieve the reality of the choices made and the lies that have stepped in between us.

No more hearing your voice, and sending things about our day. No more seeing pictures of each other’s kids, and sending gifts for Holidays. These days have come to an end not by my desire, but by the constant victim pattern and mindset.

As soon as the boundary is set the cold creeps in. Guilt from my flesh. Gaslight from the other side. The darkness of ones sin is now exposed staying blind of the truth. No matter who you are in my life if you cannot respect me, or be safe, you lose the privilege of being part of my children’s lives. There is no apology that needs to take place for choosing safety. But that doesn’t mean this doesn’t break my heart.

Cautiously I hope to rebuild what has crumbled this relationship. But for now I will protect, and grieve.

Childhood Connection

Today I was reading Numers 21 and 22 and images from my childhood Bible came to mind. I went to open it and sure enough on the bottom of the story was the chapter references. I am in my thirties and had terrible memory as a child. Being a visual learner seeing pictures or art or making art helped me remember lessons or stories. This was a reminder as a mom who is raising the next generation of believers to keep on reading, and keep on doing the activities as the Lord works on my children’s hearts.

The Old Testament can be daunting for new believers or brushed off because it was the Old Covenant. My connection this morning was awakening and encouraging. Most of the children’s Bibles have a reference for a deep dive of the story that goes along with the pictures. For someone who is a visual learner or are wanted to understand the story better look up the bottom references.

December Distractions

December is the month of expectations, reality of relationships, grief, and filled up calendars.

Distractions.

I ask myself in the wrapping of gifts, stamping the Christmas cards, decorating our home; am I preparing room in my heart for Jesus this season?

Not Christmas traditions.

But having prayer be my second nature. Yielding my flesh to him and be reminded of his goodness year around. Including Christ in the day to day. The joy, grief, confusion and celebration of Christmas.

I constantly hear fellow parents saying:

“I’m burnt out from December.”

“I’m so overwhelmed.”

“I can’t wait to get this over with.”

I can’t help but wonder if we prepared room in our hearts for Jesus, the overwhelm would be easier to manage. December won’t be a dreaded month. That the forced smiles and just one more push will become genuine.

I can’t help wonder that in the season of Joy I ask myself am I seeking true joy? Has my heart prepared room for Jesus?

Am I the in keeper who says ‘come in, I don’t have much but this is what I have?’ Distractions of December. Or Have I prepared Him room in my heart?

Homeschool 2025

First day of school pictures are being posted and we are doing our annual pictures as well. This will be our third full year around of homeschooling. I hope to answer all the awkward concerned questions in this post, that even some homeschool families don’t quite understand.

The beauty of homeschool is freedom. Yet there are still other homeschool moms who raise a concern of my lack of this or that. I have learned on this Motherhood Journey that no matter what I do someone will always be negative toward the way Peter and I have chosen to raise our children.

All the lies like: homeschool is expensive, your kids will miss out, and your children will fall behind academically, could be true if we didn’t choose to be intentional in these areas. It is all about parent involvement and the tools each family has.

My poor unsocialized children are in fact in sports, in an Awana program every year, we go on field trips, we use free library events, play dates, and of course we are in a co-op for them to learn to do group activities, like cooking. They are missing out on bullying, learning adult content too early, and being unheard, and undervalued, and overlooked. That is something we are ok with them missing out on. They are not missing out on being around others with different ethnicities, skill levels, and lifestyles. They are learning to problem solve right then and there and can come back to me in the moment and work on how to overcome conflicts with their peers. They are not missing out on holiday parties, group activities, and learning from other authority.

I love that my children are hungry for knowledge and curious about everything. I want to keep that light burning in them. We read on a lot of topics they are curious about. I’m so thankful for a library card! I never knew there so was much about turtles, lizards, volcanoes, and geology! They have recently started science on Thursdays and are loving discussing the observations and doing the hand on activities. I believe every child is running their own race. One of mine is technically kindergarten now, he is doing addition and subtraction, and learning to read. My other is working on double digit addition, and also learning to read. He would be first grade. Society calls this behind? I call this going at their pace, and exposing them in a way that fits their learning styles. Learning should be fun not a battle. For the longest time they didn’t care for the alphabet so I got alphabet dot marker activity book and they loved it. Their favorite is the alphabet sticker books that make a picture of something they like.

Expensive curriculum isn’t necessary and is a tool in the home that doesn’t work for everyone’s budget or learning style. We use school zone books that fit their “grade level” and combine it with all the other things we do. We do hands on learning, games, materials we can reuse. I document this all by putting the dates on the work books and taking pics of the activities we do. My kids learned addition by counting the dots on dominos. All these I have found online for free and not only has saved us money so we could take them out on field trips and cover their sports but also my mental health.

My children have never asked to go to a school and love the adventures we go on, the things we are learning, and love that whatever they are curious about we will learn about! Recently they have learned how to swim, cook and learn new recipes from around the world, they did a lemonade stand raising money for Operation Christmas child, and are eager to start sparks together this fall!

Worth Standing up For

I was both surprised and proud when my friend told me how my son stood up for her son at the pool the other day. I often wonder if my children see they are worth standing up for, that they have a powerful voice, and if I’m encouraging them enough. That day my son saw value in his friends hard work that this girl ruined, and spoke up for him. My son was fearless. He was thoughtful. He was being a good friend.

It really opened my eyes at how powerful the voice of parents are to our children. Children are what we tell them they are. With Peter and my voices silenced and dismissed at such young ages, this was powerful for our healing journey. This is the fruit of our labor. This is the reflection of how our child sees himself and other people. Worth standing up for. His voice matters and it’s not because we told him once. It’s because he is included in conversation and we value his opinion on things.

Being a once jaded mom and having to learn to speak softly and with words that bring healing and confidence to my children I am thankful see my child with out a doubt did the right thing. He didn’t second guess. He didn’t lash out. He simply said “That is not ok and you need to be kind and say sorry.”

This is my hope for all children. The ones who aren’t stood up for will some day learn they too matter. The children who are standing up with confidence that it never runs dry.

A Year To Celebrate!

As I put up the pastel decorations and start preparing the boys Easter baskets I’m filled with joy remembering our first Holiday in this home was last years Easter.

For those who know my journey they know I moved seven times before Peter and I got married. And most times I had no idea where I would live. But one thing I did know is faith is not blind. I knew God would provide. Peter and I rented our first home, but for only ten months and were on crunch time to either choose to rent or buy. We closed on our first home and lived there for a long eight years. I had a plan to live there for three but I needed a waiting season and had to learn contentment no matter where I lived. In that time God was preparing our hearts for this big adventure we have been on.

We sold our home of eight years in August of 2023 and bought this home last spring of 2024. We were again on crunch time. But in confidence I knew God would provide. It seemed heavier this time around with Peter needing to find a job, a different budget, parents now, and once again on crunch time. We had five months to live in an Airbnb and work from there. I never doubted God’s provision and knew if we were meant to buy again we would. But I also had to be content with possibly renting. God says yes and he also says no. In that time we have a choice to be faithful no matter the outcome trusting he knows us better then we know ourselves. He knew the outcomes all those times I had figure out my next place to live. He was faithful then, and I knew, because of that journey he would be faithful to my family as well.

Christmas Letter 2024

It will be our first Christmas in our new home. We chose to take a huge leap of faith two years ago with out fully knowing the outcome to restart our lives over as a family with a big move. Last Summer we put our house on the market and this Spring we bought our home. It’s crazy to think that last year we were celebrating Christmas in an Airbnb and this year we are stringing lights on our garage and blowing a up a penguin in front of our home. This year we have focused on settling in while the boys continue thriving in their homeschool journey being in baseball in the Summer, doing the home depot work shop with Peter once a month, being in the Awana program throughout the school year, doing the reading programs at the library, free events at the library, and of course play dates with their neighbor friends and new friends. They have been loving their Sunday school after they go to first service while we are in a parenting class. Peter found a job that is sometimes only four days a week and only sixteen minutes away from home. On the days he is home we go down town, the beach, do some yard work or a park. We are so thankful and blessed.

Merry Christmas and Blessings,

Echols Family

Peter, Mihaela, Jason (6), and Logan (4)

Baseball Found Us

My children are wrapping up their first year playing T-ball being on the same team and it’s been so amazing watching them play. Even in all of the excitement Peter and I have noticed the competition and different approaches to sports as parents. It took me by surprise considering the ages and the program we chose to put them in. We know as we continue this journey our core values will come in conflict with sports.

It all started with giving our children a lot of options and exposure to different sports in our backyard for about a year and we noticed them leaning toward baseball the most. So we went for it! With baseball being more hands on, we thought it was perfect for their ages. Their coach asked if we wanted to keep them in baseball down the road. We said ‘as long as they’d like to be’. When it comes to their interests or activities they get to decide. Their hobbies or interests are about our boys, not us. I didn’t see myself as a mom in the backyard pitching a ball to my boys and having them practice running bases. But here we are! Another unpopular approach Peter and I take with baseball is the time it takes up in our schedule. As much as we want to lean in our children’s interest we don’t fill our calendar with their activities. Before signing them up we see how realistic the hours, locations and days it will take up. If it overlaps with Church they will have to miss. Even amongst fellow believers this is a hard balance. I always remind myself when I come in conflict with this unpopular opinion.

My children will be standing before God on judgement day. Not their coach.

As we encourage our children in their activities we hope they too walk away with these truths: this is for them, it’s good to do activities that bring them joy, and balance is important.

Moving Blues

I cling to the truth of God being in control as we adjust to the next final step of our big move. I got what I’m calling “the moving blues” where I know I’m going to be ok and everything is going to work out, but right now I feel very isolated. We just moved to our final home and we have to start all over again. We have to find a new church, a new Awana for the boys in the fall, and new friends for me and the kids. I am a friendly person, but it doesn’t mean I like meeting new people. The vulnerability is daunting and even more so as a mother. With our appliances breaking or already broken I feel defeated. My children are having a hard time with this change too. The first two nights we had them in our room because they were up often.

As I was scrambling around the kitchen leaving the door open to be able to see the kids playing in the garage I could feel the weight of my weariness. I looked over the verses from Awana that we need to work on hanging on the fridge. I began to remember the core truths the kids and I have been learning: God is in control. What a relief. I’ve been leaning on that truth since. This is why I am working on memorizing scripture for both me and my kids. In rocky seasons such as this one I want our children to grow up leaning on the same truths. God is in control. God is our comfort. God is our peace. God is our Rock.

Philippians 4:-9

 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.  Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Paul’s reminder to the Philippian church has encouraging truths for us as followers today on how we choose to react in situations. He says “The Lord is near” and “present your requests to God”. Notice he doesn’t measure the value of the request? This reminds us that God is ready to hear our desires and be with us in all seasons even if they feel unimportant to others; it is all important to God. The great and mighty God is near, he cares, and he is our peace, comfort and joy in this rocky transition.